and a messy, disastrous, regretful relationship situation.If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.This means he’s a guy that isn’t emotionally volatile (as in, he doesn’t explode into anger, he doesn’t pressure you with demands, he doesn’t get jealous, he’s not a trouble-magnet in his own life, he’s not vindicative) and he’s got his life in order (he’s not depressed, his own life isn’t filled with drama or problems and he makes level-headed decisions). people with problems always find a way to suck other people into them…and they succeed if the other person isn’t in a stable place herself.Just because you’re not a couple doesn’t mean that you can slack off on being your sexiest self.This means you’re going to maintain great fitness habits and great grooming habits.It simply means that you limit how you relate to them… If you notice strong negative feelings coming up in yourself, it’s time to end it. With all this in mind, this is why the next rule is super important…If you notice strong negative reactions coming up in him… Even if you are great at following the first six rules, everything will come apart if you choose a guy who isn’t emotionally stable.
As I said at the beginning of the article, I’m not encouraging or discouraging anyone from having a friends with benefits type of arrangement. I will say that there’s nothing wrong with having one, though.
The relationship might be casual, but being your sexiest self is important to maintain the mutual excitement of a FWB arrangement.