So, you’ve made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage? You are dating while celibate and you’ve joined many other singles who have made this personal and spiritual choice, including Meagan Good and Tamara Mowry who both decided to become celibate while they were dating.While I celebrate your courage to make this choice, I know you may feel like it’s almost impossible to find someone who respects your values and is willing to grow with you as you move forward in your relationship.The summer before college, I met a funny, smart, pretty girl at a party, and we fell for each other. I lied and told her I wasn’t because I thought she’d want to be with a man who was experienced.When we finally agreed to have sex, I immediately knew it was a mistake.After graduation, I moved to Pennsylvania to begin my career, eventually starting a real estate business.After a few months, my job became less and less fulfilling. ’ That’s when I picked up Pastor Rick Warren’s book The Purpose-Driven Life, which guides readers through a 40-day spiritual journey.In my hometown of Huntsville, Ala., my parents raised me in the Baptist church, where from the pulpit, I heard that God wants us to reserve sex for marriage.That biblical teaching sounded fine—until my hormones began raging during adolescence. By then, a lot of my friends claimed to be having sex, so I felt as if I was falling behind.
passionsnetwork Dating can be tricky for anyone, but add in the concept of not wanting to have sex (or not being able to have sex), and you have a whole other set of issues to deal with.’ I now know God was using the experience to bring me back to Him.At church one Sunday, the minister said, “God sometimes gets our attention by conviction, confrontation and constriction.” I joined the congregation that day.They admitted that they, too, wanted to get back in alignment with their faith, so we made a pact to recommit to abstinence and hold each other accountable.