At first, my goal was to briefly catch his eye or gather data.(Once, I spied him pulling up on the back of his friend's moped. ) Next came non-flirtatious small talk—I learned that he was a painter, that he'd just been to Virginia to meet his new niece—then more straightforward flirtation at the brunches we both worked, where we made a game of constantly trying to show each other up.We didn't hook up, though we did go to sleep holding hands, and a week after our sleepover, he (finally) asked me out—we went to see Conventional wisdom suggests that a guy expressing a positive sentiment about his mother indicates that he values women and treats them well.(If a man were to opine the opposite—say, "My mom's a real bitch"—that would seem to be a big red flag.) It derives from the same school of thought as "Date a man who has sisters."But even if you don't buy into all that, it's hard to imagine how someone thinking his mom is nice could be anything less than, well, nice.So instead I situated myself around him as frequently as possible; but once in place, I always let him come to me. But whenever I knew he'd be working dinner, I stuck around.Usually I had company—we got at least one free drink a shift—but even if the others wandered off, I stayed until he showed up.She reveals to readers key facets of online dating that so many of us are in the dark about or too afraid to experience alone for the first time.
Let's go grab some Frostys and then bang." Socially competent people know to just ask someone out to dinner and then let the banging happen organically.13. There's no shame in being unemployed for a stretch or getting paid under the counter.But if he's describing himself as an "entrepreneur" and refuses to get more detailed or refers to his job situation as "complicated" instead of being up front, that should be a red flag. Either he's seeing someone else and doesn't want to be spotted out with another woman in his hometown, he doesn't see a future with you and doesn't want you knowing where he lives just so he can keep his distance, or he's basically a hoarder and he doesn't want you to see the state his place is in.If he doesn't have a job, it's understandable that he won't want to lead with that, but if he won't even elaborate when pressed, he either (1) does something shady as hell for a living or (2) is just fine with lying a lot.14. It's one thing if he's being a gentleman and doesn't want you to make a long drive out to see him. Either he's being really forward with you or that "thinking of you" text was only sent to you because he wasn't paying attention.4.