Invalidating the self
He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. Validating your thoughts and emotions will help you calm yourself and manage your emotions more effectively. How do you apply the six levels of validation to self-validation?Validating yourself will help you accept and better understand yourself, which leads to a stronger identity and better skills at managing intense emotions. Notice that mindfulness and self-validation go hand in hand.On the other hand, going on the offensive often escalates the conflict or puts us in the position of trying to change another person. of Duke University supports the idea that invalidation leads to mental health problems.
One sign of both high self-esteem and high EQ is the absence of either of these defensive responses. He writes "...a history of emotion invalidation (i.e., a history of childhood psychological abuse and parental punishment, minimization, and distress in response to negative emotion) was significantly associated with emotion inhibition (i.e., ambivalence over emotional expression, thought suppression, and avoidant stress responses).
If you fight the thoughts and feelings, or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset.
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