Validating conflict avoiding and volatile

If you are worried about the future of your marriage or relationship, you have plenty of company.There's no denying that this is a frightening time for couples.

Yet here's the surprise: There are couples whose fights are as deafening as thunder yet who have long-lasting, happy relationships.More than half of all first marriages end in divorce; 60 percent of second marriages fail.What makes the numbers even more disturbing is that no one seems to understand why our marriages have become so fragile.Marriages like Bert and Betty's, though, which emphasize communication and compromise, have long been held up as the ideal.

Even when discussing a hot topic, they display a lot of ease and calm, and have a keen ability to listen to and understand each other's emotions.

Fighting, when it airs grievances and complaints, can be one of the healthiest things a couple can do for their relationship.